Opportunity for Growth

MY GRANDPA USED TO SAY…⠀

Opinions are like a$$holes – EVERYBODY’s got one.⠀

Ok, so what opinions are helpful criticism and which ones do you completely ignore and dismiss as “haters”?⠀

Learning to REALLY listen to feedback from your core audience & constructive comments from your clients and coaches, while not taking on the negativity of random internet haters is a valuable skill. It’s admittedly, not one I’ve mastered 100%, but I do have some guidelines.

The next time you get a comment that stings, put it through this litmus test:⠀

Is this person in my corner? Do they normally cheer me on and want the best for me?⠀

Is this person generally secure and happy in their own life and with their own circumstances?⠀

Is there anything I can do about the feedback being offered?⠀

If the answer to the above is YES, then take a minute and consider the comment.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀

Perhaps there is some nugget of truth in what is being offered. Even if the tone or delivery is imperfect, is there something there to reflect on? Is there a perspective you haven’t considered? In what way might you reconcile or remedy the situation? People who want what’s best for you generally don’t say things out of spite.⠀

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If the answer is NO, then please get on with your life and don’t obsess.

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It’s easy to let negative comments wrap their gnarly tentacles around your self-worth and smother out all the light, but you know better. We all get sucked in, but professionals DON’T STAY THERE. Deep breath and send the angry person a silent blessing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀

Delete. Hide. Mute. Unfollow. Move on.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀

Take all feedback with a grain of salt. Your ego will never like criticism, but if the source is a true friend or advocate, it can be an opportunity for growth. If the source is an unhappy, jealous or hyper-critical negative troll—shake it off, momma. You’ve got more important things to focus on.⠀

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How do YOU deal with negativity?

Jessica Depew

I'm Jess. I'm an attorney, writer, CEO, yoga teacher and a heart-centered mom of three. I'm dedicated to helping you grow your business alongside your family and be the person you most want to be. If you're curious about my background and how I came to do what I do, here's the riveting story (get your popcorn ready)... I'm a born and raised Texas girl (hook 'em!) bred with equal parts no-nonsense discipline and sweet southern charm. I'm a preacher's kid and an obsessive self-development junkie who spends time reading, teaching, writing and coaching heart-centered business women in building their online empires. Ironically, I try to spend as much time offline as possible. I love chick-fil-a waffle fries and I can rap every word of "Ice, Ice Baby" on demand. I've owned and helped run multiple businesses over the past 20 years—law firms, yoga studios, tech companies and cyber forensic startups—just to name a few. I'm honored to have been named one of Southeast TX's "Top 40 Entrepreneurs Under 40" and my 12 YO has assured me that I'm "legit pretty cool for a mom". Through years of teaching and coaching women in business, leading retreats around the world and creating life-changing programs and courses, I help women like you dream big, clear mental-emotional blocks and finally take action that creates results.